Several weeks ago I wrote about our new chore chart system for the kids. The chart has been downloaded nearly 275 times! Thank you! It is very simple, very easy for the kids to understand and it’s been working for us wonderfully.
There have been a few weeks when not a lot gets done, but that’s one of the beauties of this whole idea. If the kids really want to save up their money for certain things then they are pro-active about making sure they get their checkmarks in, when they are lax it helps them to realize that it’s partly their responsibility to get things done without having to be told. It’s also helping me to let go of the whole “it’s faster if I do it” mentality. Yes, it is faster when I do it. But I truly believe that it’s more a disservice to them, not letting them learn and grow and make mistakes.
Last week I finished the book Cleaning House A Mom’s 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement. I was hooked from the start. The book is easy to read because it was written like a blog post that the writer kept updating with new insight and info.
I knew before I was even very far into the book that I would be implementing several of the ideas in our house. My kids have taken to the chore system so well and I can already tell a difference in their attitudes about the housework. Of course there is still moaning and groaning at times when they are asked to take care of something, but at least they are starting to understand how all this work “magically” happens.
After finishing Cleaning House I put together a list of things I want the kids to know how to do well before they leave home. Even though I do not want to think about my kids leaving home right now, in reality, it is a few short years before they will be capable adults. I want to make sure of the capable part.
Maybe some of these are givens, maybe some seem ridiculous to put on a list, but I think that they are important. And I think that the sooner I stop “babying” them by doing everything for them, the much more confident and self-assured they will be.
Top 10 Things Kids Should Know Before Leaving Home
- how to make their beds and keep their room tidy
- how to plan a menu and grocery shop
- how to cook
- how to clean the kitchen
- how to clean the bathroom
- how to do laundry
- how to have good manners and to serve others
- how to do yard work
- how to take care of their skin, body, health
- how to budget their money
Now I know that this will be a work in progress, it will take time and even be several years before they begin to know some of these things. But I think with our chore system, and with updating it each year as they get older, by the time they are ready to fly the coop, they will be responsible and fully capable adults.