Over the past 4 months I’ve learned to let go so much more. And I haven’t completely lost my mind.
I remember years ago, reading an interview with a minister’s daughter, they were talking about the minister’s wife. The daughter said one thing she’s always remembered about her mother, was that she always kept their home company ready. I remember thinking “That’s what I’m going to do!”
Years later I realize that is completely unrealistic for me and my family. I can see that as something a minister’s wife would feel the need to do because they always had people stopping over for prayer, or to be ministered too. But it was also back in the 50’s & 60’s when people had a lot less stuff and they had a lot less activities to run around to than we do now.
Today, I have 3 jobs (including my own blog) plus a husband, 2 kids, 2 hermit crabs, 2 dogs, mountains of laundry, 2-3 meals a day to fix, after school activities to drive too, a house to clean, craft projects to finish, the list goes on and on.
I’m not saying anything I’m doing is more important than the minister’s wife. What I’m saying, is that I have a different lifestyle than she did. Keeping my house company ready all the time is completely unrealistic for me and honestly, not even needed. People know me, they know I’m a clean person, they know we live real lives and don’t live in a magazine spread.
So I’ve learned to let go even more. I’ve give the kids more responsibility and am letting them do things the best they can without “fixing it” later. They are never going to learn how to do it themselves if they know that they can halfheartedly do it and mom will “fix” it better later.
I’ve also realized that my to-do list is never going to be empty. My today’s to-do list might get finished (rarely) but my to-do list is always going to have several more things on it.
So yes, if you come to my house you just might see a mountain of laundry, dirty dishes in the sink, craft projects laying around, and toys scattered all over the place. But guess what, we’re clean, there’s food on the table and plenty of ways for the kids to entertain themselves (and their dad and I). We’re happy, healthy and whole. And that’s good enough.
Linking up with Shell’s Pour Your Heart Out.